While perfectionism can be a good quality to have in certain areas of life, it’s also paired with potential damage to our psychological being. Our Anxiety and society have managed to put great pressure on perfectionism; but it can overall have a negative impact on mental and emotional health. It may be helpful to understand perfectionism, and how you can beat it.
What To Understand:
There are three kinds of perfectionism.
What Perfectionism Does
Leads to a Life Filled with Stress
The anxiety and stress that comes from perfectionism usually results in trying to live up to an internal ideal. When dealing with your own anxiety, and society’s pressure on an individual, that perfectionism can turn into a worry about how others are watching them. This can turn into a negative reflection of one’s self when dealing with their own shortcomings. These beliefs and doubts can result in isolation, loneliness and depression.
Often Associated with Negative Thinking
When someone is a perfectionist, they may jump to the conclusion that others won’t accept them if they knew the real individual behind that perfect exterior. There may be a lot of self-blame when someone doesn’t think they that can achieve the standards that they set for themselves. They may often feel like they won’t be able to fit in anywhere. This negative thinking can deplete someone’s self-worth and make someone feel incredibly unsuccessful.
Leads to Depression
Perfectionists don’t often share their shortcomings with others. They want to be seen as strong and put-together. They won’t tell people that they’re feeling weak or distressed because that would display flaws. This can result in rapid growth of mental illness. It comes without warning. An individual can have been depressed and anxious for a while—but have worked so hard to hide it. This perfectionism type ends up in a negative cycle. This individual strived to maintain a good image of someone who was constantly happy and healthy, but felt that they couldn’t reach out.
How To Beat It
One Can Use Embrace Their Imperfections as a Way to Heal
No one is meant to be perfect. Being able to embrace imperfection as a way to heal can help ease that “perfect” mindset. It’s important to try to stop comparing oneself to others. The constant comparison of others is what feeds self-doubt.
Start to find ways to be more aware and thankful for the littler things in life. Research has proven that even coming up with 10-15 things to be grateful for in daily life can significantly shift a negative mood into a more positive and stable mood.
Understand & Recognize Which Aspects of Perfectionism One is Displaying.
Being able to recognize the type of perfectionism one is dealing with can lead to a better chance of tackling that anxiety and getting better. Understanding your experience can be a guide to your healing. Don’t neglect what you’re dealing with. Address and conquer it head on.
Embrace the Mindset That It’s Okay to Not Be Perfect.
Start minimizing the excessive behaviors and practices that you may take on. This challenge helps aid the reality that perfectionism is not a requirement in your life. Once imperfection is noticed and embraced, you can start to feel like your life is becoming more grounded again.
You’ve got this. Rebuilding yourself takes time. Breaking habits that are dragging you down takes time. Stay positive and relish in your journey.
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